Monday, November 4, 2013

Can Love Conquer All?

My first writing assignment was accepted for publication!  Woo hoo!  I have to say, this is a lot like writing papers for English classes in college--something you wouldn't think someone would willingly subject themselves to for a measly $2.50 an hour. 

Here is the link to the article:

http://classroom.synonym.com/can-love-overcome-obstacle-relationship-10003.html

I did not write any personal info in this article, so I will give you some background on how I came to the conclusion that love is not enough to overcome any obstacle in a relationship. 

My first husband and I were very much in love.  I'm not sure I will ever love someone else as much as I loved him.  The odds were stacked against us--he used to refer to himself as a poor, half-breed bastard--but neither of us was the type of person to shy away from a challenge.  There were many people who thought that our relationship wouldn't last, but there were also a lot of people who thought we were the ideal couple.  We worked very hard to save our marriage, but in the end love wasn't enough.

It was a sad lesson to learn, since I have always been a romantic.  I believed that differences in race, class, religion, and family background didn't matter, that stereotypes weren't true, and that even though you had a crazy childhood with lots of traumatic events, you could still have a healthy relationship as an adult as long as you loved each other.  And maybe those things are still possible, but they haven't been possible for me.

But I'm not sorry that we tried.  I'm not sorry that we got married.  I believe that love is a gift, and there are no guarantees that you get to keep any gift forever.  Some people never get to experience the kind of love we had, and I got to have it for 12 years.  And for that I am still thankful.

And I am open to the possibility of loving someone like that again.  I am not going to close my heart off because of how painful it was to lose him.  Love may not be enough to conquer all, but it is still worth fighting for.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

NOT "they weren't possible." You mean to say that they haven't been possible so far. My gut tells me that there's a healthy relationship in your future, Dr. Christy. And my gut is almost always right. (Ask one of my friends if you don't believe me.)

Joe said...

Oops. That last one was from me. (I don't believe in publishing anonymous comments.)

Christy said...

I will hold you accountable for that prediction!

christy barongan said...

I've revised this post. Does this sound more hopeful?