I don't do well with endings.
Yesterday, as I began my 2 day drive back home, I started feeling anxious for no reason--until I remembered that I always feel anxious at the end of a trip. I was so relaxed during my vacation that I forgot how stressful my life was. Even tennis, which I love more than anything, feels like a job that I have to get used to again. The emails, texts, and calls about team registrations, lineup changes, and board meetings began before I made it home.
I always obsess over the passage of time at the end of a trip. How quickly it seems to go. The things I fear about getting older and watching other people get older. The more I enjoy myself, the stronger this fear is.
The next time I see my niece, she won't be 7 anymore. I asked her to stop getting older when she turned 5, but she didn't listen. Of course, I enjoy her just as much now as I did then, but there is something sad about the parts of her that are left behind every time I see her. Interests that are no longer cool. I don't really know how to put this feeling into words, although I'm sure there are some sentimental parents out there who know what I'm talking about.
I'm the same way with books that I love. I dread coming to the end of them because then I will have to say good-bye to this world and these characters whom I've grown fond of. Sure, you can read the book again, but it will never be like the first time, when you didn't know what to expect.
I used to obsess so much about having to say good-bye that I couldn't enjoy the time I had left with the person. Then, after they were gone, I would cut off my feelings for them so that I would not have to mourn their absence. Not on purpose, of course. In fact, it made me feel like some cold-hearted person. I think that's why I'm so bad about keeping in touch.
Today I had the realization that, while I was sad about the end of my vacation and the drive home, I also had a lot to look forward to. The beginning of summer. The start of new tennis leagues. More road trips--including one to see my niece again at the end of summer. In fact, I will be with her on her birthday, when she turns 8.
Perhaps instead of thinking of time as being linear, with clearly demarcated beginnings and endings, I can think of it as cyclical, like the seasons. That way, beginnings and endings are right next to each other. And while I may not be able to go back to a specific point in time again, whenever the cycle repeats itself, I can pay homage to that memory, and add another one to go with it.
And I can blog about it, which always seems to help.